Let’s Take a Journey … To Identity

Who are you? 

What do you stand for? 

What do you want to be known for?

What is identity? 

What is your identity?

I know I’m coming out the gate hot with all the questions … Don’t worry, keep reading.

You know I’m going to break it down … 

Now, in order to help you find your identity, I'm going to take you on a journey by telling you about my identity to help you see the process.

The Foundation

But, before really diving straight in, let me give you a framework to work with and a better understanding of where we’re going.

So, what is identity?

Identity is who or what you are. An identity is the qualities, beliefs, personality, looks, and/or beliefs that make a person.

Your identity is made up of characteristics that determine who or what a person or thing is. Your identity is made up of various things … race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, your personality, professional identities, and the list goes on!

If you’re wondering if you can choose your identity, the answer is yes. 

Identity is a choice between the various characteristics. Your identity is a lot of small choices about various characteristics and behaviors, that when grouped together, form themselves into a single, coherent identity … YOU!

The Journey to Me

I've been constantly growing and evolving because I'm constantly learning about myself and working to redefine who I am. This has been an intentional process.

This constant pursuit of self exploration and self discovery has been displayed in a piecemeal manner throughout my social media … But, this is a way to pull it together in a way that is a beneficial learning experience for you as well …

 So who am I, what is my identity?

I'm Alesha … but in this coaching world I’m Coach Lee ... I’m someone who is inspired to make an impact. Who shows up in each and every area of my life and strives to be the best that I can be, while also encouraging others to be the best that they can be. 

Yes, I’m a growing business owner, an attorney, a family person who plays different roles in the family ... a daughter, granddaughter, sister, Tante, cousin, godmother, just a whole lot of roles that I play in life. But, my identity, the essence of who I am, leans into each of those roles that I have and play within those roles ... I'm inspired to impact that is my goal!

I'm typically a person that likes to be in the background doing the work. But, even in that, I'm a motivator and encourager who is determined to live my best life and be the best version of myself. 

I make the decision to show up for myself everyday - through my workouts, through fueling my body properly, through this quest for knowledge through personal development in reading, courses, podcasts ... Just all the things.

I'm blessed and I won't allow negatives to keep me down. 

I've changed my perspective, which has changed my mindset, and led to a change in my life ... THIS life change, I exude and embody it, and leads others to look to me for motivation, encouragement, and support without me trying.

I'm a multi dimensional and multi passionate person. 

I'm a criminal defense attorney and a Productivity & Accountability Coach. While these two roles might seem different and not at all related, they are. I take what is presented to me and find a way to look for and do good with it. So they are related.

Through this journey to me, to finding my identity, I found not only my purpose but my passion … Which has led me here ... To create Legal.Lee and become your Productivity & Accountability Coach.

Now, my identity within Legal.Lee, as your Productivity & Accountability Coach, is to help you to improve your productivity and consistency so that they can stop feeling overwhelmed by helping you to create your own personalized and simple success formula that will reduce the stress that you often feels when it comes to you trying to go after your goals.

So, as you can see, my identity is made up of a lot of parts and depending on how deep you want to go into some of the parts can unveil a whole new level to my identity that you might not have seen coming. 

The Journey to You

What is your identity?

If you don't know who you are, what you stand for, what you want to be known for, and the impact you intend to have … You’re leaving your identity to someone else!

You have to know who you are before others can know who you are. 

The way that you show up, the way that you do things, the impact that you have is all part of your identity. 

There are levels to expressing your identity and your true self … 

• Sometimes we’re honest with ourselves and express our true self with ourselves.

• Sometimes we’re honest with ourselves and others about who our true selves are.

• Then, there are those who express our true selves to ourselves but other people only get a shadow version of ourselves. 

• Then, there are those who hide our true self from ourselves and also hide your true self from the world.

• There are those who hide their true self from ourselves but then give the world their true self.

• Oh, and then there are those that can’t even be honest with ourself about who you are. 

Now which of these levels sounds most like you?!?

If you're ready to do the work, to find out who you truly are, what it is that you truly believe, what it is that you stand for, what it is about yourself that is holding you back and keep you from living your true authentic self and fully embracing your identity you have to do the work.

There are different questions that you can use to ask yourself to figure out what your identity is.

Who are you truly at your core and the true essence of your being what makes you you? 

You aren't defined by the role that you play in life … While the roles you play in life do make up your identity they don't drive and define your identity.

Your identity is shaped by you!

Let's take a look at the roles that you play in life to see how those roles impact and affect who you think you are.

So, take the time to pause and think about the roles that you place in life … You can see from me going through my identity what some of the roles are that I play in life.

What roles do you play in life?

Taking the additional time to ask others about yourself and the way they see you can help define your identity, in terms of the roles that they see you playing in life or the roles that you play in life to them. 

This can help you see if the roles you think you play are roles that you’re actually planning. And, also help you to see additional roles that you might be playing that you never even knew you were playing. 

You are in charge of defining your own identity. 

Your identity is shaped by who you believe you are, who others believe you are, what you do, what you are, and how you exist in the world. 

But, ultimately it's your job to take control and define your identity and not let someone else do it for you.

Defining & Re-Defining You

Your identity can change … In fact, your identity should change! 

As you grow and change, as you see what parts of your identity are no longer serving you, then your identity should be changing in conjunction with that.

Now it's your turn, who are you? What is your identity?

If you’re struggling to define yourself, or redefine yourself, and you’re ready to get to the root of what your identity is, let's talk about it. Let’s hop on a call and talk about crafting and creating an identity, and seeing how your current identity is impacting your life. 

The unhappiness, the unfulfillment, the procrastination, the stagnation, all the feelings that you're feeling in life that aren't letting you live your best life are based around your identity. 

So, if you can get through your identity and identify who you are, what you stand for, what you want in life, and then start living in that … Setting and achieving goals, creating order in your life, being productive, getting things done, setting big goals and going after them will be so much easier because you’ll know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want … It’ll be about YOU, not about what someone else feels is important for you. 

We’ve taken the journey … To learn what identity is, to get a peek into my identity, to help you learn what your identity is, and how I can help you to go through this journey as well.

Now that you know who I am ...

Feel free to comment below and let me know … Who are you? What is your identity?

I’m here to help you to simply and effortlessly be able to get things done and fulfill those dreams and goals that you have in life because this will be the start of you being consistent with everything in life!

-Coach Lee

Your Productivity & Accountability Coach