Taking Responsibility in Life

It’s on you to take responsibility for your life!

Taking responsibility for your life and for yourself is doing something different than you’ve probably been doing.

It’s not being willy nilly and not just being haphazard. It’s ending this year, to start next year, with a plan. It’s investing in yourself … 

And, I’ll just to go ahead and throw it out there, it’s being willing to get the help you need by getting you some accountability and getting you a coach. 

Take Responsibility

While you might not think that it’s important to take responsibility for your life, or better yet you enjoy playing the blame game for things that are happening, not taking responsibility is actually causing you more harm than good.

How? Because you’re self sabotaging yourself. And, you’re putting someone else in control of your life … What happens, what doesn’t, your happiness, your emotions. 

So, let’s take responsibility for our lives. Let’s take action and be intentional with our lives, instead of complaining and placing the blame on others. 

Taking responsibility for your life is moving from victim of your life, to victor of your life. From making someone else the villain in the story, to making yourself victorious in all that happens in the story.

If you keep allowing someone else to dictate your life, you allow them to be the cause while you reap the effect, whatever that may be. Instead of you having an “in spite of” mentality where you control your life in spite of anything else that is happening. It's acknowledging that no matter what, things aren’t happening to you, but they’re happening for you … And you’re able to find the good, the positive, the benefits, and the learning lessons in something that might ordinarily be perceived as bad, but you instead see it as an opportunity or a lesson. 

Taking control of your life is taking responsibility for your life. It’s getting in that driver's seat and navigating your way through life, taking the detours, overcoming the roadblocks, moving past the stop signs and red lights, not allowing those accidents to get to you. Viewing nothing as a failure or a mistake, but looking for the benefit and the good in everything. 

I want you to take responsibility for your life! Are you willing to?!? Are you ready to?!?

5 Ways & Things to Take Responsibility For

There are a lot of ways that you can take responsibility, and a lot of things that you can take responsibility for. But, I think they can also be roughly summed up into these five things. 

And as you’ll see, it will start to make a lot more sense as to why taking responsibility for your life is prioritizing yourself. 

Now … Let’s get into these tips ... 

Take responsibility for your actions, feelings, and thoughts

Energy goes where energy flows. So whatever it is that you’re thinking about, planning for, and focusing on, is where your energy is going to go. And when I say energy, I’m referring to your actions, your feelings, your thoughts, and even your words. 

Taking responsibility is dictating that flow of energy! You create your life, you create and allow these actions, the feelings, and the thoughts to continue to exist in your mind. If you don’t want them there, stop them! 

I know … Easier said than done, but hey this is your life, so if you aren’t willing to do a little work in order to make it better, then it doesn't sound like you’re ready to take responsibility and prioritize yourself.

I’m here to show you that it is possible to do this, but that comes with some tough love about not only the desire to do so but the will to do so. If you aren’t willing to both say “I know these thoughts" but also that “I know these thoughts aren’t real” then you aren’t going to be able to overcome them.

You are in control of your mindset … PERIOD! If you take responsibility for the thoughts that you have, and acknowledge that these thoughts are coming from your mind, then you will also realize that you have the power to change these thoughts as well.

Your actions, feelings, and thoughts are yours and yours alone. Own them! Nobody can make you do, feel, or think something that you don’t allow yourself to. So do your part, and take responsibility.

Take responsibility for what’s happened and stop complaining 

The victim mentality isn’t the answer. So yea, how about you stop blaming everybody … The boss, the client, your family, your pets, I mean anybody and everybody. Let’s shift your need and desire to keep blaming. Let’s shift to you getting out of the victim mentality that is keeping you stuck and from making a change in your current situation.

Do you want to stay stuck as the victim? Or are you ready to come out on the other side as the victor? Because if you’re here to take responsibility, then that means you need to be let go of victimhood and win, be the victor!

Accept your role in what’s happening and what’s going on. Then, figure out what you’re going to do about it. And go do it!

Ohhh … So you’re still complaining. That’s nothing more than another form of the blame game. And that’s helping you, how?!? Blaming, complaining, and pointing the finger is nothing more than just showing that you’re so busy delegating the blame and responsibility to others, instead of looking at what’s happening and finding the lesson in it.

Take responsibility and stop taking everything so personal

So you really think that the world revolves around you and that everything is about you? That’s cute … How about no. Let’s stop taking everything so personal and looking at everything as an attack on you. You can’t control what is said about you directly, but you can take responsibility for how you respond, which will likely play into the way that they treat you from there.

Let’s grow up now … We’re rounding out the year and going into a new year. If you really look at what they’re saying, and get to the root of it, it's probably about them, not you. Every disagreement isn’t a personal attack, every negative statement isn’t a personal attack.

What about asking questions instead so that you can understand and get to the root of it. Think to yourself, or ever ask them, is this really about me, or is it about the issue at hand?

You’re in charge of yourself. You’re in charge of your response. I told you to stop with the victim mode and the victim mentality already, so stop it already. 

Oh, easier said than done, right. Really, if you take responsibility for your actions, feelings, and thoughts, it’s not as hard as it seems. See how these are relating to each other and forming a theme and process for you? Yea, it’s intentional … 

So, start asking yourself, what are you taking from this? And how will you respond?

Take responsibility for making yourself happy and living in the present

Be happy. That’s it … That’s the sentence, the thought, the request. Be happy! 

You don’t need anyone else to make you happy, so take responsibility for yourself, your life, and your happiness, and make sure yourself happy. It’s no one else's job or responsibility to make you happy, but you!

First, figure out what makes you happy. Then, go do what makes you happy! 

Enjoy the present. And stop being in such a rush to get to the future that you don’t take the time to enjoy the here and the now. 

Just like with doing what makes you happen, you can ask yourself what you want in the present. And then yes, go after it!

Enjoying the present is creating the future and the happiness that you want.

But, enjoying the present is also awareness. Being aware of what is happening inside of you - your mindset, your thoughts, and your feelings … While also being aware of what is happening around you … And letting go of the things that aren’t serving you and aren’t helping you with the present.

Take responsibility by intentionally looking for the good

You know that you can make intentionality work for you and your benefit right? Use the power of intention to your benefit. Because you choose … Like it’s your choice to choose, or even not to too … That’s a choice too.

Every day, you choose. So, if you’re going to choose, take responsibility for the choices that you’re making and make the choices that are beneficial to you. To where you are. To where you want to go. To what you want in life. 

You choose to look for the good in people, in the situation, and in the circumstance. 

But you have to be intentional about it. It’s not going to be an automatic thing, I’m not going to lie to you. But if you use the other things that I’ve told you about in taking responsibility, it becomes easier … Because like I mentioned earlier, they’re building on each other and forming a theme.

You can look for the good by making choices - using your actions, your feelings, and your thoughts - to help create a vision that’s good. A vision for your life, your health, your finances, your job or your business, for your family … And the list can go on and on.

So, look for the good and ask, is this choice going to help create the vision that you want and that’s good for you?

And when it comes to looking for the good in people. You know I already said don’t take it personal, so if you keep that in mind while you're looking for the good in people, then you will see the good in their intentions and behavior, if you try.

Yes, there are evil, conniving people. But, more people aren’t … They might not know how to express themselves, they might have good intentions at heart, and honestly even if they don’t if you listen or look at what they’re saying and do and understand their intention (even if it’s not a good one). 

So, it’s like listening to understand. Understand their intention, their response, their purpose. Again, even if that purpose is bad, ask questions to understand, and then use that understanding as a benefit, as something that can and will work for you, because you see the lesson that you’ve learned as good.

It’s Your Turn Now!

So, how does getting a coach and investing in yourself help with this? 

Because you’re putting yourself out there and you have someone to help you with the parts that you aren’t strong with. 

So how about we end 2021 the way that I hope you want 2022 to be … Strong, with a plan, and with a system, and most importantly with asking for and getting help when you need it!

Just book the call already … My 2022 plan is ready because I’ve taken responsibility, have you?!?

~Coach Lee

Your Productivity & Accountability Coach